When we look at communication we often think about the words that come out of our mouth. How often do you think about your behaviour as a way of vital communication? Have you realised that you say a lot about your self based on how you behave? Do you realise that people make assumptions about you based on how you behave? Do you realise your speak a international language when it comes to how you behave? More people will understand you world wide based on your behaviour than the words you speak? Your body language says more about you than you realise?
Our behaviour comes out of who we have become due to our thought process. How do you express feeling happy, excited, wanting something, sad, frustrated, bored, angry or in pain? Our ability to communicate exactly what we are feeling through words is often difficult and we need the behaviour with the words to make a statement or impact. Also keep in mind that how we behave may not always convey what we are actually feeling. Some individuals make jokes or laugh when they are nervous or scared, while others may just stay still, cry, or display anger. We are all different.
Our behaviour always reveals something of our internal state (what is going on in our mind or heart). It can also say more about us than our words, is your behaviour complimenting your words? Today as you go about your daily activities consider what it is you are communicating about your self to others. Ensure that you smile more than you frown, look up more than you look down, hug a loved one more than crossing your arms, say hello rather than not speaking.
Today, through your behaviour communicate who you are and who you hope to be. Remember you can't change your past, but what you do/say today can and will have an impact on tomorrow and the years ahead. You will often be remembered more for what you have done than what you said. When you say I love you, show it/express it.
The old nursery rhyme 'Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me" is so not true. Words have the ability to get into our minds and taunt us for the rest of our lives when we decide to believe them. If a person gets called a name for long enough they will start to believe it, become it and live it out. The problem is we pay more attention to the 'bad' names we are called or the negative things that are said about us than anything else. So, when someone comes along and says something positive and uplifting we find it so hard to believe.
When we eat foods that are bad for our physical health, it begins to build up in our arteries and can one day when we least expect it cause a heart attack. In the same way the things we listen to gets into our hearts and minds and has a way of causing blockages. These blockages start off small and over the years depending on how much negativity we have let in will start to cause issues, mentally, physically and spiritually.
In this picture the dark blood signifies blood vessels being clogged. For this heart its the beginning, a few holes have also started a leakage (letting out hurts).
Is it time that you ensured your heart is not blocked or that you are not expressing your self due to the hurt but rather the joy your heart feels? Another saying 'hurting people hurt people'.
Is it time for you to start listening to life giving words rather than hurtful words.