Has there ever been a moment in your life where you didn’t know fear?
What was that like?
For most of us fear is a reality and it comes in various forms. It does not discriminate! It strips us from the ability to enjoy freedom and live life with purpose and passion. Some fears work in groups like shame and guilt. Others stand tall and are like shadows that linger in our hearts and minds, while some others are like sand in the shoe felt as irritations that keep getting in the way of peace and freedom to be your self.
The thing is when we don’t take control of the fear or don’t understand where it came from or are too scared to deal with the cause of it; it eventually becomes a friend. Not a friend that you want to keep necessarily but one that never seems to leave your side because 'it' believes fear is your friend.
I would say that one of the main causes of the beginning of fear is insecurity. It stems from some form of loss that you may have experienced. The loss can also be interpreted as a lack. This loss/lack has the ability to grow based on how well you feed it and nurture it. The place it first takes root is in your heart and then gradually into your mind and before long it can cripple you physically.
Fear doesn’t need fertilization (just like all weeds) it grows in any place that it can latch on to. Fear creates worry, anxiety, nightmares, panic, terror, agitation, tension…..
Each time we react to the fear rather than dealing with it, it grows momentum and can and most often does take over our life. Soon, we go from living to surviving to existing. When we spend too much time in the mode of existing at some point people can possibly contemplate suicide. I have come to realise that the goal of fear is death.
My encouragement to you is look at what fears you have in life. How is it stopping you from living a life with purpose and passion? What dreams do you have that the fear is holding you back from? A fear can be killed and the only way to kill a fear is to deal with it with understanding and love.
Is today your day to acknowledge your fear, to name it and to deal with it?