We know that we communicate in verbal and non-verbal ways. We often look for the signs of what is not being said and we try to 'read between the lines'. I have noticed that we only seem to be interested in what a person is saying if it is going to directly affect us and at times we ignore what a person is saying because we can't be bothered or we don't know what to do with it. We may even interpret a persons behaviour as a bad habit, looking for attention or just wanting to be disruptive.
How we behave is a key indicator of what we are trying to communicate to those around us. At times when we think a person is seeking attention it is actually a cry for help. Can you think about purposefully wanting to hurt your self or wanting attention for no reason. Those who are branded as 'attention seekers' often feel that they are invisible and alone. So, even bad attention is some attention but they don't have the language to communicate this truth so they behave in a disruptive way.
On the other hand some feel insignificant and feel that no one will understand how they feel or what they are going through so they hide. How can someone else understand them when they struggle to understand the pain or struggles themselves. They hide their faces, they hide their scars.
If you notice a change in behaviour with those who you do life with or if you notice that a person appears withdrawn or overly seeking attention; can I encourage you to investigate. Don't poke and prod but show you care, show you noticed. My guess is they are screaming for someone to take note, to led a hand. You don't have to be a person who has the answers, you just have to be the person who heard the cry and saw the behaviour for what it is rather than for what it was.
Have you ever been a room filled with people and still felt alone, have you ever experienced not being understood, have you ever struggled to explain something that was simple in your head but impossible to do with words?
Today, take a moment to not judge the behaiour but take a moment to STOP, LISTEN. Behaviour is a universal language. Each of us want to be acknowledged, accepted, understood, loved - we want to belong.